We’ve been considering a change for a few years, and are visiting Cornwall next week to decide if a move to the coast is something for us. I’ve thought about endo every step of the way. I want to be really clear with you about the reasons I’m moving and the considerations my partner and I made, as they potentially could inspire your own big change and help you think about the steps you need to make to create a happier life with endometriosis.
Moving to the sea is part of my new approach to money. While budgeting and saving are on my agenda, so is minimizing my biggest expense, which was London. I wouldn’t move somewhere just for cheaper living, as my quality of life is more important. But my partner and I searched to find a location we love that is affordable. The prices of the houses we’re looking at are half of what we payed in London, and we’re also upsizing to four bedrooms, so I can have an office. Again, this is a calculated move because not having a dedicated workspace I can walk away from at the end of the day affects my ability to unwind and relax.
Having cheaper bills will allow my partner and me to live a lifestyle that is better for both our mental and physical health, but will also enable us to save a few thousand per year.
Having to give up full-time employment obviously has had an impact on my finances, and saving to travel (as we’ve always hoped to) has been a distant dream that depends solely on how quickly I can increase my freelance work. But saving this much money means we are actively working toward that goal, and it takes the pressure off of making more money. While this is, of course, a natural aim, I don’t have to endure sleepless nights because we’ll easily pay our bills and still save for our future.
This coming week, my husband and I are visiting our potential new town to view a few houses (fingers crossed)and possibly a new business opportunity. While every area has its issues, and this town is really no exception, the pace of life outside of London is so much slower.
Both my husband and I have anxiety issues that have become increasingly prevalent the longer we’ve stayed in London. It’s also meant our social lives and time together has become impaired when one or both of us hasn’t been able to face the crowds of London, or when we end up not enjoying ourselves because we’ve become tense. Next week, however, I hope that both of us feel our shoulders drop and our muscles relax, and that conversation will flow between us. We will stroll along the sea, dropped into cafés, and enjoyed gazing at the waves. Let’s hope both of us feel happier than we have been in months.
Community is essential to our well-being. Studies are emerging to show that loneliness reduces life expectancy and increases the risk of disease, and that a sense of community increases life expectancy. My mental health levels often prevented me from going to social events in London, and I only saw friends a handful of times each month, if that.
The new town is just under two hours away from London. I feel confident my mental health will improve in our new town and I’ll want to make the effort to visit friends. The area my husband and I are hoping to move to is also a popular destination that I know a lot of friends like, so I’m also keen to regularly invite them to stay. We’ve also deliberately chosen a town with a strong sense of community, lots of activity, and events.
Due to the prices of basically everything in London, I couldn’t afford to take part in activities that would have benefited my health. In our new town, I’ve already found the local yoga, Pilates, and mindfulness classes that are a third cheaper than what they were in London. This means I’ll be able to go to regular sessions, improving my health and connection to the community. All these lifestyle changes will have a positive impact on both my physical and mental health, helping me live a happier and healthier life with endometriosis.